The Full Tilt Boogey, Where We Go From Here

words by caliberal posted January 27, 2006 - 9:19pm

UPDATE: This blog was a response to a diary posted by Kid Oakland on Kos. I strongly disagreed with what KO had to say. It was basically the same old, same old, 'do whatever it takes to get Democrats elected in 2006 and 2008, we have to take back the majority before we can do anything else.' Here's a link to that diary.
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2006/1/27/165439/648

This morning when I went on dailykos, KO had a new diary up on what the filibuster has to be, disciplined, principled, and about one issue and one issue only, A Filibuster For Choice. I found it extremely encouraging that my voice had been listened to and heard. In my heart of hearts, I believe what most women want is to be heard which leads to the respect we deserve and a place at the table. Here's a link to Kid Oakland's new diary. http://www.dailykos.com/story/2006/1/28/132916/459

I'm not sure why I still go to dailykos. Perhaps it's because I'm masochistic, perhaps it's because I still believe what I have to say matters, perhaps it's because I believe the words need to come from a strong woman who no longer gives a shit what people think. What I know for sure is that strong women's voices are sorely lacking over there. I also know kos gets a million hits a day. If I can influence some, if someone takes my words to heart, if I force some to think beyond what the parroting tells them to think, then I believe it's worthwhile.

I'm also at the place, amongst all this muck and mire, that I think it's time to start talking about what we do next, the time seems right. I see images in my head and on my monitor of the women suffragists who marched in the streets, who forced the issues, who saw the real threat of being imprisoned, force fed, and beaten come to pass and yet they took to the streets once again the day they were released from their cells.

These women started newspapers, they wrote books and circulated them, they lived and breathed their movement until the day they died.

There comes a time in history when people need to take a stand, when a segment of society is being treated poorly, ignored and abused by the powers that be. There comes a time when we have to stand up not just for ourselves, but more importantly, for our daughters and their daughters. That time is now for us, we know it, we've known it for awhile. Now comes the question, what are we going to do about it?

I know we are tired, we're older, we have physical limitations, we hurt, we're not as agile as we once were. I know all of that but I know something else, we are mighty, we're strong, we're commited, and WE'RE RIGHT.

It's time to get off our butts and make a plan. I can rant with the best of them, I can write letters, I can tell my father off, I can deride my loyal newpaper editor. I want to and need to do more.

This is a comment I made to Kid Oakland on kos. In his diary he spoke the same old line of how we need to tow the line, we need to be good little boys and girls who push all else aside and vote for the Democrats because, well, because, just because. The same old, we need to get back into power, we need to win back the majority and THEN AND ONLY THEN can we start thinking about our priorities, our values and our principles.

I also know I'm not telling anyone here something you didn't already know. I know many are already ahead of me on this. I know there's most probably a place where a strategy and plan are already in place. I just want to know what that is and where I go to join.

While writing the following comment in response to KO, I saw an image of women standing at polling places all across this country with signs saying we are boycotting the Democratic Party, we will not vote until the party listens to what we have to say, until the party gives us a place at the table, until the party makes us the number one priority.

What this party wants from us is one thing, it's not what we have to say, it doesn't want that. It's not our loyalty, they don't care about that. It's not our commitment, they write that off. They want, above all else, they want our vote. They won't have my vote anytime in the near future and perhaps forever if they don't heed this warning. Deny me, betray me, ignore me, sell me out, at your own peril.

This is to the Democratic Party. You can't win elections without women. We've never cost you an election with our 'silly' demands like our right to choose but you will lose elections when we refuse to vote.

Just because I want to, here's the comment that started all this today. You've read what I've said to the senators, you've read what I had to say to the Democratic Party in, A Tip of the Hat to What Once Was. Now here's what I said on Kos.

What you say is fine KO but I don't see how it's any different than what many have been saying for years. I see how it lets our leadership off the hook though, as long as they keep telling us we have to take back our position in the majority, then we can start to work on what principles define the Democratic Party.

It's the same with Markos as far as I can tell. He crams Casey down our throats and then he's incredulous that Casey would give the middle finger to those who give money and work to get him into office. What we are left with is a strong advocate against the very values and principles this party used to believe in.

Values like a woman's right to choose, values like stem cell research that he opposes, values like gay rights and supporting their efforts to adopt children and have a family.

Sorry, I'm not with you on this one. Women have been told to hold our mud for years and years and years. Our issues have been repeatedly pushed to the back burner while our leadership and fellow Democrats told us our day would one day come. Well, guess what, not only did our day never come, it has been morphed out of existence. What we have instead is a party that has compromised our rights of choice away so much that women and young girls are already dying, they are being imprisoned and no new doctors have been trained to perform abortions. What does that mean? That the abortion providers today are in their 60s and 70s, ready to retire but with no one to take their place.

When and what is it you would have us do KO? Stand up and fight for what exactly? To be told once again to hold on, women shall overcome someday?

I don't give a rip what anyone says to me anymore. I will not vote for another Democrat until they put the rights of women front and center. I have seen what happens when we wait. I've seen abortion wards, the results of illegal abortions, I've heard it in the halls of my high school, the screams of grief when one of our friends died trying to self abort.

I've heard those screams, I've heard the screams of the parents at the funeral of a sixteen year old without a choice. It's a sound I'll never forget, it's a sound that drives me, it's a sound that makes me livid, it's a sound that haunts me, it's a sound that fills me with hate, it's a sound every single Democrat should live with for the rest of their fucking lives.

That's what waiting has done for women. The only answer for us is to show up at the polling places with no intention of voting. When we show up in the thousands maybe the leadership of this party will take note, maybe they will see the result of denying us the right to our bodies and the fucking RIGHT TO LIVE.

For all of you who call us names for saying we are abandoning or deserting this party, let me just say that it has become obvious to many women that the only thing of value we have to give this party is our vote. None of you can say you have given more to this party than I have. None of you can say you are more loyal, or have loved this party more than I have. None of you can give women the promise that this is the end of the apathy towards women, none of you can tell us we will be respected and protected by this party at long last.

I'm a proud liberal without the brackets. I've been a liberal since I was in high school 40 years ago. It isn't a label for me as in 'liberal,' it's a way of life for me, it's who I am inside, it's what gives me strength because I know I'm on the right side. My party can't say the same.

A line has been drawn in the sand for us, by us. What we know for sure is something we've always known, if we withhold what we value the most, the vote we fought for for far longer than we should have had to, that is what will win us a place at the table.

The shame is not ours, it's yours, it's this partys, it's everyone who keeps telling us what to do, that what's right for the party is right for us. We don't believe you because we have no reason to. And that is the real shame of it all.

AT the end of this day, I can see women all across this country of ours, standing proud with signs that say we've had enough. That our lives are worth better than we've gotten. That we will be back election after election with the same message until the loss of this party stings so badly they grovel and beg us to return. Then we can take our own sweet time and decide what to do, decide what is right for us and what is right for our daughters.

Men, their rights and nothing more; women, their rights and nothing less. Susan B. Anthony


Comment by caliberal posted January 27, 2006 - 10:57pm

I'm not sure how anyone else feels about this ongoing conversation between Kid Oakland and myself but I think it illustrates what this party is saying to women. Kid Oakland is one of the men on Kos I have admired and respected. He is also dead wrong in his support of Markos and the party when he says we have to go along to get along, win elections and then to stand up for the values and principles this party was built on. The problems with this are obvious especially in light of this party no longer knowing what those values and principles are. These are two responses I got from KO after my initial comment.

I've reread the piece. [Markos orginial post]

I don't see him saying "shut up" or "be complacent" or "don't filibuster."

I see him saying in simple terms that Harry Reid's margin of error on Alito was slim to none, and that we should work to elect Democrats who WILL stand strong against judges like Alito, irrespective of what happens on Alito.

kos's current position seems to be "tolerating" Ford and Casey. That's hardly how he's being characterized.
Howard Dean, it should be pointed out, like alot of folks, came out for Casey. Kos was hardly alone.

I disagreed with that position, but, as a realist, do not see how Bob Casey is anything but inevitable at this point in Pennsylvania.

If you want to oppose Casey on principle, however, one can always support one of his two primary opponents. That's what primaries are for.

If that seems to the be the "lost cause" to you that it seems to me, support Amy Klobuchar in her race against Mark Kennedy. That's a way to oppose Minnesota's version of Rick Santorum.

It would be a real shame if Amy loses while we obsessed about PA if you ask me. Imo, Kennedy plus Casey would be a bitter bitter pill.

I think it's important to note that Markos gave us some tangible things to do with that post. He is talking about working on races that will help to win majorities.

If the choice is simply between that and talking about how awful the Democrats are, I'm going to work to win elections.

And this one, he feels attacked obviously, it matters not to me, women have been attacked with much worse on Kos, I say get used to it 'big boys.'

I can only speak for myself

but I am not telling you to shut up nor what to think. Far from it.

And I agree with you that Bob Casey Jr. seems like a deal with the devil at this point. I would count him as a Democrat who is running against our party for his own gain. We are a pro-choice party, or as I've tried to articulate, we have a big tent, but it's a pro-choice Big Tent.

I've fought hard against Alito, so it's difficult for me to read a comment that seems to imply that I support him when I do not, or that I support policies that I simply don't.

Your comment doesn't give me much room to seem anything other than a sell-out asshole. I'm not.

For what it's worth, caliberal, I think your voice should be heard and listened to.

I wrote this diary because in my honest assessment Markos showed some leadership in the things he said yesterday, he pointed out in a pragmatic way the best shot that all of us have of moving forward win or lose on Alito.

I have disagreed with Markos in the past; in this case, on the whole, I did not.

His "reality check" did not do what you said it did as far as I can tell. I'll read it again.

This is my response to both of the comments by KO.

I'm speaking for myself also

KO, this is in response to your comment about how you read Markos' post and in response to what you have said in this comment.

First, let me say I respect you and admire who you are in this party. I am not in any way implying that you are an asshole or a sell out. I'm simply stating what all of this says to the women who feel as I do.

That you got caught up with what Markos had to say, what this party has to say about winning the majority and my response to that whole premise is not meant to single you out. It's a response I give to the party and all of you who believe that winning back the majority is the end all and be all.

Also, when you say it's a 'pro-choice big tent party' well, that is just nonsense. It's a big tent that invites and supports pro-life candidates, senators and representatives, and organizations into the fold of that tent.

What that means is essentially, now that we have Roberts and Alito on the Supreme Court, this party and everyone in it has to make a choice, you either stop recruiting, endorsing, supporting and funding pro life candidates which leads to pro life members in leadership positions or you don't. One is a vote against women who care about choice and one is a vote for women who care about choice. It's our lives KO, call us 'single issue' voters who are destroying this party or understand we have nothing left to give and we're not going to sacrifice our lives.

I know Markos wasn't the only one endorsing and/or supporting Casey. After Casey came out yesterday and said he would vote for Alito's confirmation, Schumer got a letter from me. [my letter to Schumer was here.] Then I continue to KO.

To all the Democrats who have tried to cram pro life candidates down our throats from Pelosi's Tim Roemer to Clinton, Reid and Dean's support of Democrats for Life, this is beyond the pale and a slap in the face of women in this party.

Women held no illusions that someone like Alito was in the running for the Supreme Court. How supported do you think we feel when Pelosi, Schumer, Clinton, Reid and Dean say what they have said about abortions AND who they have endorsed from the candidates to Democrats for Life? The point is women shouldn't have to wonder where this party comes down on the choice issue, we should be able to rely on our leadership to do the right thing.

That's where it began KO and what it comes to is this, many, many leaders in this party told us they would do whatever it takes to deny the confirmation of any Supreme Court nominee if they opposed and would seek to overturn Roe v. Wade. Some men on Kos have said the same thing, that if a nominee was in place for the Supreme Court who would work to overturn Roe they would quit this party in protest.

Then what happens? Alito is going to be confirmed and we get the same old, same old. Just hush up until we are back in the majority. Just bite your tongue and put up with the Casey's and the fighting Dems even though some are anti choice. We are told to be patient, we are told our time will come, that this party will get to our frivilous little issues in due time.

What I'm saying is I've been waiting for over thirty fucking years KO and it has not come to pass, this respect for who and what women truly are to and in this party.

It isn't you, it's all of you who tell us to wait once more. If you can't understand or see that being asked to work our asses off one more time, that we are needed to phonebank and fundraise and walk precincts, and have little coffees in our living rooms when we have lost our rights then you are are as deluded as the rest of this party.

You've, the bigger 'you've', needed us to work for this party to win elections for years. That you don't get that telling us to wait is akin to telling us to shut the fuck up is simply staggeringly ignorant to me.

That's what I'm talking about here. That Kos wasn't alone in coming out for Casey doesn't make it right or better KO, it makes it sickeningly worse.

By the way, when the voters of Pennsylvania are told where Casey stands on the issues, choice and stem cell research, Pennocchio beats him by 4.4 points against Santorum.

As a realist I would hope you get and understand that many women have had it. Why? Maybe because our fucking lives are at stake, maybe because our daughter's lives and their daughter's lives are in danger. What more do you want from us besides our blood, KO? What else can we possibly give but our fucking lives?

For those of you who are offended by swearing, I'm sorry but sometimes I just have to use f*** over there to get my point across. Let me know if it's an absolute no no here and I will comply with the rules. Also, let me know if you think this is much ado about nothing.

Men, their rights and nothing more; women, their rights and nothing less. Susan B. Anthony

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Comment by scribe posted January 28, 2006 - 9:18am

I totally agree with everything you've written here, Cali, and I also very much respect and admire your stand as well, MM. I remind you that unimportant, impotent voices are NEVER banned, so pin that one on your shirt like a damned medal and wear it proudly, my friend.

Cali, your voice is strong and powerful, and as long as you can keep it up without harming yourself, GO for it!

Then other thing is this: we NEVER know how many are reading us, or how far the truth-ripples spread from there. It's not esasy to keep on pounding it out when there isn't very much visible response, but I honestly believe that those of us who are compelled to keep speaking up and who have the gift of words to do so, must do so, and ARE being heard. The energy of truth is a very powerful energy..that radiates in ways and on levels we can only imagine...
I trust this implicitely, and I say to you both, never silence yourselves, or allow anyone else to.

Take a "rest and renew" break when you need one. Lean on "like spirits" for encouragement when your own supply runs low, we are everywhere. Be compassionate with your own humanness...but never, ever..stop writing.

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Comment by kactus posted January 28, 2006 - 8:54pm

For those of you who are offended by swearing, I'm sorry but sometimes I just have to use f*** over there to get my point across. Let me know if it's an absolute no no here and I will comply with the rules.

If cussing was cause for banning I'd have been banned pretty much from my first post! I'm notorious for swearing like a sailor, so don't worry bout it.


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Comment by caliberal posted January 28, 2006 - 9:06pm

Hot diggity fucking damn. That, my friend, is music to my ears. A good rant just isn't complete and satisfying without a few well placed fucks.

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Comment by Madman in the M... posted January 27, 2006 - 11:28pm

would be right there with you.

It might very well be necessary to destroy the party in order to save the country.


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Comment by caliberal posted January 27, 2006 - 11:36pm

You are continually a man who gives us hope and you always has. You never flinch when it comes to women's rights. You are also one of the most honest and courageous people when it comes to this party, what it was, what it has become and where it is going. You have no blinders on, it's so refreshing.

Thank you seems too little to say but thank you for all that you do.

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Comment by Madman in the M... posted January 28, 2006 - 1:13am

but I only have words, and people don't tend to listen to me ...

I feel impotent, most of the time, but ...

I admire that you try to hang in at dkos, ass-kissing soul-suckers that they are. I barely check in, since I've been banned, and I find so much powerful writing on smaller blogs.

Someone just emailed me today that Liberal Street Fighter was just removed from Dkos' blogroll. Banning me, Marisacat and Wilfred wasn't enough, apparently. I actually felt proud to be banned, to be honest. Our words bother apparently ...

Keep fighting.


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Comment by caliberal posted January 28, 2006 - 1:39am

You are so wrong MM, people listen to you. Remember when the women on Kos were celebrating each other and the only man they asked to join them was you? You certainly weren't impotent that night. :)

I didn't know you had been banned, I just knew I missed you. I thought maybe you had left by choice. It's shocking that Liberal Street Fighters has been removed. Why is that? Isn't it about a free flow of ideas and beliefs?

I've said it many times, I go to Kos in spite of Markos. I don't read what he has to say, I don't believe what he has to say, I think he's politically immature and naive. I also think he's extremely shortsighted, he chooses to alienate and disenfranchise the very people who sustain the Democratic Party. It's a whole bunch of nonsense to my mind.

I still go there because so many people read what's there. Also, because so many women who are there are either on the outside of this party already or are on their way out but need a nudge.

I actually felt proud to be banned, to be honest. Our words bother apparently ..

I love this, kudos to all three of you, our words bother, now that's something to tip a glass of bubbly to.

Let me just say this, to 'people don't listen to you' ... Bettye LaVette. She's singing to me as we speak, my friend.

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Comment by Madman in the M... posted January 28, 2006 - 12:38pm

when I called a bunch of rightist Dems Republican trojan horses. Kaine's actions on Gay civil rights in his first few weeks in office show that I wasn't far off, and it's only going to get worse.

You can read about them dancing on my cybercorpse here. Great fun was had by all.

Thanks for the kind words and encouragement. I'm lucky to have gotten to "know" here in cyberland so many wonderful strong women. All of the feedback and counsel have made me, I hope, a better writer and better informed person.


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Comment by bayprairie posted January 28, 2006 - 4:27pm

i was in the thread madman links to above but you won't see any of my comments. i was being troll rated on every defense i made of his actions, 11 or 12 at a time. i was also banned.

marisa was also banned for no good reason at all other than speaking truth.

kaine's gay hatred and anti-choice views are the perfect example of the new democratic party.

the orange site is an enabler of this move. anything for power.

it's a return to the southern strategy in an effort to gain votes. women, gays progressives all go overboard.

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by Madman in the M... posted January 28, 2006 - 5:37pm

thanks.


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Comment by boudicca posted January 29, 2006 - 4:32pm

I don't post much; but I do read - a lot, and in a number of places. I just wanted to say, madman, that yours is one of the names that always makes me open a post. It is rare, sadly, to find such empathy, insight and passion for the plight of women in the male of the species

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Comment by Madman in the M... posted January 31, 2006 - 12:07am

I was blessed w/ women in my life who taught me to open my mind and my heart.


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