Monday Afternoon at the Welfare Office

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words by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 2:45am

So I spent a lovely couple of hours at the obligatorily ugly welfare office today, me and about 200 other moms & kids, waiting to see my worker for my yearly review in order to continue to get my monthly allotment of $152 in food stamps that comes between my family and starvation.

This is really funny, this cinder-block montrosity in the middle of Milwaukee's poorest neighborhood (aren't they all) surrounded by corner stores and cheap furniture stores. Anyway, the funny thing is that they closed it down a couple of years ago for "remodeling" and then temporarily relocated (for 1 1/2 years) to the courthouse downtown while they remodeled the ugly welfare building. I heard a rumor that there was a rat problem, but what I really think is the folks in charge just needed to spend some federal block grant money. And fast. But I digress.

During the remodeling period moms & their kids, who already have to spend bus time, bus-stop time, and sitting-in-ugly-welfare-building time, now had to re-route themselves to the downtown courthouse, which wasn't prepared for the mom/baby/toddler onslaught. Not to mention that the few moms who have cars had to keep running outside every few minutes to feed the parking meter, thus taking the chance of missing their call to see their worker and then having to explain to the bored receptionists why they simply COULDN'T reschedule their appointment, they just went out to feed the meter, and why couldn't they still see the worker? Please? Please, goddamnit???

But I digress again. For almost two years Milwaukee shut down the main welfare office on 12th and Vliet and forced the moms to hang out in the downtown courthouse, and when the remodeling was finished and the finished product was unveiled---IT LOOKED EXACTLY THE FUCKING SAME! Same concrete blocks, same boarded up places where windows are supposed to be, same dirty sidewalk and street where the only people allowed to park are the workers.

Except the city was nice and put a few frescos over the areas where windows are supposed to be, and re-named the building after some politician. So now I guess when a couple of moms are talking we aren't supposed to say "oh I have to go to 12th & Vliet" which every poor person in the city knows about, but instead will feel a sense of purpose and self-worth when we talk about making our appointment at the Marcia P. Coggs Human Services Center.

Where business goes on as usual. Where you wait on plastic chairs alongside what seems like every teething baby in the city. Where caseworkers routinely lose families' paperwork so the worker has no choice but to sanction 100% of that family's foodstamp allowance for the month.

The place where we come to beg our workers to give us back our foodstamps or our medical assistance. The welfare building where we sit sometimes for hours in those plastic chairs.

What always gets me about places like the foodstamp welfare building, or the shiny new W2 buildings (Wisconsin Works, our euphemism for cash welfare), is the absolute acceptance that life is about waiting in line without complaint, cuz that's what you get for daring to be poor and looking for a handout. Or trying to keep from losing your cash/food stamps/childcare/medical assistance/home/children. I call it the welfare waiting-line mentality, and I see the same thing anytime the city or the state or some private charity decides to give some stuff away.

Toys for Tots is an example. I'm sure every city and town in America has something similar, where you get free toys if you're too poor to show your kids the wonderful American Christmas tradition of spend-and-go-into-debt. So you go to apply for Toys for Tots. You wait in line outside of some building alongside a couple hundred other moms. Then you get inside and prove to some worker somehow that you're poor and not some middle class person trying to scam the charity out of some free toys.

Once you've verified your poor-needy status, you get a number to--get this--go stand in line in a couple of weeks, once more outside in December in Wisconsin--while you wait to get called in to choose one--sometimes two--toys for your kids. And you get a few generic wrapped toys that basically amount to department store over-runs (a few years ago my daughter got a Scott Baio coloring book, I kid you not).

Few question this welfare waiting-line mentality. We wait in line at the food pantry. We wait in line at St. Ben's meal program, where I dare anybody in the city of Milwaukee to drive to 9th and State after 5 pm during the week to see all the people (hundreds!) waiting in line for a hot meal.

We stand in line to get Energy Assistance, a worthy program that keeps We Energies (our gas/electric monopoly) from shutting off our electricity and gas in the middle of the summer. They used to shut it off in the winter too, but activists shamed the utilities with all the deaths they were causing and now they wait to shut us off til we no longer need electricity or gas--i.e. the summer. Such fun camping out in the dark, with no refrigerator or fan or lights. Such fun for the disabled who die in the summer heat because our bodies/hearts/immune systems are too weak. Such fun having no hot water--but who wants to take hot baths in the summer anyway? Or cooking gas--but wait, all the meat and milk in the fridge spoiled when they cut off your electric anyway, so I guess that's not such a big issue. Besides, there's always the barbecue grill.

But back to the welfare waiting-line mentality. Wait in line for emergency shelters, even if you're black and blue and just got to escape that battering ram of a man who lives in your house.

Wait at the Social Security office. Wait at the clothing bank that will give your kids a used winter coat or shoes. Wait, wait, wait.

But don't forget what makes waiting really interesting and fun--it's toting along the kids. The brand-new babies, the toddlers with never-ending head colds, the babies still in the womb. Tote along all the kids' accesssories--diapers, change of clothes, bottles, backpacks, toys to keep them from driving you crazy, books, drawing papers, crayons, snacks, lunches, homework if it's during the schoolyear.

If you're disabled it's a case of standing in line with your walker or cane or (in my case) oxygen. Standing in line is no fun when you can only stand for a few minutes at a time anyway. Think about what else disabled moms have to tote: wheelchairs, canes, oxygen, scooters, babies, babies in womb, toddlers with runny noses, bored older kids, and the inevitable kids' accessories. Plus we have to tote along our tired, disabled bodies.

And if anybody still doubts that every one of us waiting-in-welfare-line moms deserve a mother of the year award, remember that most of us get to that waiting line BY BUS. And almost every one of us finds time for the waiting line after or between or before long hours of low-wage work in some fast-food restaurant or nursing home or day care center or unpaid workfare for welfare.

And yet our kids are reasonably well-behaved, considering that many of them are either up too early or too late, are standing out in all kinds of weather, or spend inordinate amounts of their lives in day care centers. Our kids' hair is combed and braided (well, except my kid, who often runs screaming from the comb). Kids do homework, help with taking care of the younger kids, and cope with the situation with remarkable aplomb.

I've decided that there must be a giddy sense of power that comes from being able to command poor people to stand in line, at the drop of a hat. Social service agencies and poverty pimps know that as long they either terrorize people with the loss of benefits, or lure them with the promise of something free (but of implied scarcity, such as Toys for Tots or Energy Assistance), they will be able to command already-exhausted and over-extended moms and kids to wait, wait, wait.


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Comment by bayprairie posted July 26, 2005 - 3:03am

god damn, kactus, thats the most powerful thing ive read that i can remember. i'm sitting here alone at night 2 a.m. in houston completely blindsided by your words, tears in my eyes just seeing everything your describing. i just got home from work and i signed on to see if we had any trolls to squash, and now look at me. i don't know what to say.

renee

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 4:23am

I've got a few in my garden I'd like to get rid of. Is it like killing slugs, where you just sprinkle some salt on them and they disintegrate? Or is it more Xena Warrior-Princess-like? Cuz I'd sure love to get in on some of that action :)


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Comment by bayprairie posted July 26, 2005 - 4:27am

you know im really not quite sure yet.

but i cant wait to find out! every night im here just itching to do a few!

artemisia and laura got one earlier, that was the one who told me "iron my shirt bitch".

i slept through that one though.

heehee.. god i cant wait!

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by Shycat posted July 26, 2005 - 5:17am

iron my shirt??How about iron my shorts?How about starch and iron your dick so it will stand up?GEESH ,sorry, but that burns my ass.:)


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Comment by bayprairie posted July 26, 2005 - 5:39am

dream felt that the proper comeback was

fix my car, jerk!

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 12:53pm

Who may not realize it, but is one of my heroines, recently told an asshole to "piss up a rope." I like that one.


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Comment by TrueBlueDem posted July 26, 2005 - 3:09am

some states are making it mandatory that ALL MEMBERS of the family submit to finger printing... now if that is not making a subtle suggestion then I don't know what does. I geuss they will coodinate with Homeland security... because now all poor people are suspected terrorist.

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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 3:16am

that poor people are criminals, if not in fact then in intent.


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Comment by Maryscott OConnor posted July 26, 2005 - 3:16am

I'd say more, but I'm afraid the bile that would spew all over the screen would come out the other end.

Infuriating. Appalling. Outrageous.

Rage, rage Against the Lying of the Right


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Comment by media girl posted July 26, 2005 - 3:26am

Actually, I can add something. I worked a number of government jobs when I was younger, and the thing that really struck me was the attitude that the job was an entitlement and actually working was an oppression. There also was a lot of defeatist thinking. One manager actually bragged about the virtues of being a loser. Something about being more in touch with reality. Of course he lorded it over everyone. The whole system seemed dysfunctional. Except for us housekeeping staff, of course. If we didn't do our work, everybody noticed.

I don't understand that passive aggressive attitude so many workers in large beaurocracies have (not just government). It seems pretty clear that they don't see you. There's not even a noble mission any more. Abandoning liberalism in this country has done that, too.


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Comment by TrueBlueDem posted July 26, 2005 - 3:29am

which is really funny because the majprity of the "welfare funds" do not go to the poor but to the staff cutting the checks.

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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 4:18am

Could I say some shit about that! Ever since our friend Bill Clinton signed the Welfare Reform Act in 1996, things have gotten worse for poor families but the non-profits have gotten incredibly rich. Here in Milwaukee we have privatized welfare, with huge corporations like Maximus and co-called non-profits like YWCA and Goodwill (which has since lost its W2 contract because of fraud) raking in the money while dropping women off cash assistance as fast as possible. And what's even more ridiculous is that the statewide cost of W2 is so much larger than AFDC was. For example, in 1995 it cost $314.8 million to serve 214,400 clients. In 1999, three years after welfare reform, Wisconsin spent $589 million for only 40,000 clients. Where'd the money go? I can assure you that almost none of it went to the poor clients it was supposed to be helping, unless you call sending moms out on "job searches" and making them do free forced labor in exchange for their cash grants counts.

I really could go on and on about how welfare reform has been a boon for non-profits and poverty pimps and nothing but disaster for poor moms. How few of us are making family supporting wages after being forced off. How nobody gets to aim for higher education anymore because work comes first, even if it's work at McDonald's. How poor moms never see their kids anymore because they're always in daycare and the moms are always at work or looking for work. I could talk about moms getting evicted because of getting a full-family sanction (that's when your caseworker decides you haven't been compliant enough and cuts off 100% of your cash grant) and doubling up 2 or 3 or more families to a house. Families where grandparents are raising the kids because the moms are working, and working, and working, and getting absolutely nowhere.

But it's 3 in the morning. I'm exhausted. I'm exhausted just thinking about it, and selfish and twisted as this is going to sound, I'm glad I finally got too disabled to have to depend on welfare anymore and now have social security. Because now I only have to go to that ugly welfare building once a year to get my foodstamps. But I haven't forgotten what it's like, especially not when almost all of my neighbors are still going through the same thing.


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Comment by pyrrho posted July 26, 2005 - 4:50am

the only work programs should be giving jobs that are fit to peoples circumstances.

they waste money with resume building (may help some) and subsidizing wages (my dad got fired when the subsidy ran out)... they'd be better... I mean we'd be better just giving people work. I don't know how disabled you are needing oxygen, but if you can stand in line then there is work they could let you do at home, keep you out of line, and get something done.

I wish we'd have a Guaranteed Work Program. Does that sound realistic to you.


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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 12:33pm

Unless they come along with guaranteed family supporting wages. I'm an advocate of one radical solution: Government Guaranteed Child Support. Period. The government guarantees that no child under the age of 18 will be without support. It's humane, it's effective, and its a damn sight cheaper than the system we have now.


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Comment by pyrrho posted July 26, 2005 - 11:04pm

what are the problems.


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Comment by Kate posted February 10, 2006 - 12:20am

"The government guarantees that no child under the age of 18 will be without support. It's humane, it's effective, and its a damn sight cheaper than the system we have now."

Damn straight. Men can spread their seed and run and the women who care for the results are called whore.

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Comment by Hand out and down posted February 7, 2006 - 5:15pm

I know you're mad- I'm mad too. But I work at a YWCA, and they decentralized awhile back so that kind of abuse wouldn't occur. Did that fix all of them? Hell no. But I can tell you we're running ours on a shoestring so that all the money goes to our clients. We pay rent for some of them. I did a toy drive for some families and delivered the toys (when the kids weren't home, of course) and I made sure they were customized to the child and up to date. I had to try to get foodstamps and an 'emergency' check before I got this job (I am a children's counselor for the sexual assault division) and they told me the wait was a month. Thats EMERGENCY? So I make sure I listen to everyone who calls our center and stay late and work long to help them. We're not all bad. I know it can feel that way when it is just face after face, but some of us are trying.

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Comment by kactus posted February 7, 2006 - 6:38pm

Tired. Tired of poor women being treated, first of all, like their time is worth nothing, and tired of the constant babble of how lazy poor moms are, when it's a huge amount of work just to stay afloat.

You sound like you're one of the good workers, and that is really appreciated by all of us who've had to be in the system. But for every worker who spends extra time and effort to care about her clients, there are many, many more who are so burned out themselves that they're just marking time.


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Comment by pyrrho posted July 26, 2005 - 4:46am

that was very moving writing, a very moving experience. What can I say...

I find your focus on the power of waiting and lines, which everyone, especially middle class Americans, hate, and which are a very non-productive use of time, and which are especially avoidable in the advent of computer scheduling... very powerful.

this reminds me of Orwell's "Down and Out in Paris and London"... in the London leg of his poverty he learned the meaning of "tramp". A game much like the line waiting was employed. At the shelters, you could only stay at one a certain amount of time (a night or so, I forget, but not long), then would have to find a different shelter, and the shelters were spaces as to be a days walk. This kept the homeless, like Orwell, "tramping around" from shelter to shelter. The theory was that this kept them out of trouble by keeping them busy.

Is the American's theory keeping you and all waiting in line? Maybe.

But your theory that it's mostly a power trip is far more likely.

thanks for that. It was very well written. You should save it for future use.


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Comment by Shycat posted July 26, 2005 - 5:10am

I was there, though not now. So maddeningly humiliating!
I once had a social worker kindly explain to me that if I could not read what I was signing,then someone could read it to me.I was fucking POOR not illiterate,geez.


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Comment by DreamOfPeace posted July 26, 2005 - 9:02am

And the nastiness.

Store clerks that would announce "We have no change for food stamps on ilse two" and smile at you sadistically. Or the fact that you could buy beer, but not toilet paper with them (so we were always steeling toilet paper out of public bathrooms) - not to mention toothbrushes and shampoo. Or waiting with your little brother behind the store until all your classmates families were done shopping so that they wouldn't see you. And my mom fighting with creditors every single day.

And the scary people that lived near you.

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Comment by Kate posted February 10, 2006 - 12:25am

Oh yes, and the people who used to shame me and my kids..."You'll be out of here pretty soon!" "You don't belong in this neighborhood."

"Is your daddy in jail?" asked one nosy 'counselor' who deemed that my children being late was cause for major alarm and license to put her nose where it didn't belong.

But then poor people have no boundaries to respect.

I wrote a seven page letter to the school. They learned I had some. But that was after regularly dealing with their bullshit for so long.

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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 12:36am

How about the caseworkers who will grill a woman for having a decent hairdo, or jewelry, or getting her nails done? Like she's supposed to slouch around in house shoes and look like dirt all the time, just cuz she's poor. And how do the caseworkers even know where the woman got the money to get that hair or those nails done? Maybe her mama paid for it, or it was a birthday present.

I was never on welfare during the days when caseworkers could come into your home and inspect your closets for men's clothing (proof of a man in your life) or look in your cupboards to see that you were using your foodstamps for food, not beer and cigarettes, but I've heard enough horror stories. And it's largely due to early welfare rights activists like Johnnie Tillmon and the National Welfare Rights Organization, that the caseworkers and welfare offices were forced to back down a bit--just a bit. They're still incredibly intrusive though. And I had it better than most because I'm white and because I'm educated and aware and politically active. Many, many, many women are still being lied to about what benefits they're entitled to receive, are being denied benefits, or have had their benefits cut, all based on one caseworker's word.


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Comment by Kate posted February 10, 2006 - 12:50am

YOu know what they started doing to women last I heard, here? They had them fill out a five page 'questionaire' about their sex life if they wouldn't or couldn't name the child's father. Such questions as:

How many partners have you had this month/week/year?
Have you had sex with more than one partner at a time?
What sexual positions did you use?
Where were you having this sexual intercourse?
Was foreplay involved?
Was oral sex involved?
Did you have more than one partner in a night?
Do you have sex for money?

and on and on.

I remember that when I took my ex to court for contempt of his child support order, the state's attorney on child support showed up to 'help'. Only later when I recieved nothing but a 'receipt' for the 4,000 I had intended to collect was I informed that I had signed away all rights to any and all child support payments when I signed up for AFDC (the fine print somewhere that I don't recall reading).

I said in a phone call to inquire where my children's money went; good then don't expect me to expend my efforts in finding him anymore. The worker on the other line replied, "I don't blame you."

I felt like telling her she should send my kids a thank you note for paying her frickin' salary for the next two months.

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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 1:51pm

Yeah, the old sex questionaire. How about when you are forced to comply with child support enforcement, and they ask you who the kid's father is, when was the last time you had sex with him, how often you had sex with him, during what time period you had sex with him, hehe. I guess if you get intimate with a potential father you're supposed to keep a journal of how, when and where.


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Comment by DreamOfPeace posted July 26, 2005 - 8:46am

After my parents split when we were kids we were on foodstamps for four years. For the most part it was my Mom's network of friends and the fact that we lived in a University town (and the plentiful and flexible work associated with Universities) that finally got us out of that hell hole. I remember those days well and it sounds like its gotten worse...the finger printing is new.

That is definitely a system designed to keep people hanging on by their pinkies.

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Comment by scribe posted July 26, 2005 - 11:28am

For telling it like is, and giving those who have never had to experience this kind of systematic dehumanization a front line view. This is the norm for poor women in America, and for poor women of all ages and it is getting worse. I had my share of it too, as a single Mom. MY husband died when he was 35. He had no life insuance, only (Not insurable: juvenile diabetic). I was left with nerly 35K of his medical debt and two little kids. I was strong and healthy then, and too "proud" to look for any assitance,so I fought my way through to a two year RN degree, adding thousands more to my debt load. Worked as an RN for the next 25 years to get the kids raised, and the debts paid, then at age 42, suffered a permanent back injury, (you don't lift 200 pound patients every day, beause there's not enough staff, without paying for it) which rendered me, eventually, at age 56 unable to work at all in any nursing job. Not one I could get with only a two year degree anyway.

That's when I found myself in one of those lovely job retraining programs, being talked to like I had borderline intelligence. Oh yes, they had a job for me. It was data entry, 35 miles (one way) from my home, $5.00 an hour. (Gee, thanks,but I can only tolerate about a half hour at a time in a upright, seated position, my car is deteriorating faster than my spine and not up Minnesota winter driving) Hmm. I'll just have to pass it up that wonderful opportunity to remain "gainfully employed".

So now, after a total of 40 plus years beng a "responsible" women and mother who did stay in the tax paying work force, I have been promoted to the "poor elderly and disabled" group of American women.

It is amazing how many of us who end up in this group raised kids alone and worked hard all our lives, without welfare assistance, for whatever reason. We are invisible in the statistics. We just obligingly wore out our bodies in that grueling process, instead. Our reward for this, is to be promoted to yet another porblem population demographic called the "poor and elderly disabled."

Now now here we are, getting by on usually a thousand a month or so SSDI to cover housing, food, clothing and whatever medical expenses NOT are covered by Medicare. (Too much income to quality for Medical asisstance, you see.) So, we need to squeeze out money to pay for glasses, dental appliances, OTC meds and ever larger co pays to hospitals. docs, labsm XRAY, etc which, at todays obscene costs, place all medical care but dire medical emergencies totally unaffordable to most of us. Preventative health care? HAHAHAHAHA. Forgot about that years back. Now it's getting harder and harder to even locate clinic who will accept new "Medicare only" patients. (This is after waiting two whole years AFTER disability is granted, to even get MEDICARE! Two full years of paying all of ones own medical expenses (which disabled people tend to have a lot of!) out of pocket sure can run through savings in one hell of a hurry)

So there you have a pretty complete picure, from BOTH ends of the lifespan of low income women's lives, and of how this country values women and mothers, once you strip away all rhetoric, the pathetically inaacurate statistics, and look the bare-fucking-realities.

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Comment by jpjesus posted July 26, 2005 - 11:19am

Like everybody else before (and after, probably!), I really appreciate your post. One of the things that helps people understand each other is to hear about experiences that others have--like somebody above said, everybody (to some degree) can identify with waiting in line; you have taken this waiting, this shared activity, and given people who have never been in your position exactly a way to see what it must be like. That's tough to do, and you do it well.

I'm curious what everybody thinks about solutions--or perhaps this isn't the place for them? I know that sometimes there's a time to just express what's going on without trying to solve it, but this sort of thing makes me wonder (as others have, here) about causes and, then, solutions.

The system of welfare is obviously 'broken' in myriad ways--the beer-no-toilet-paper thing above is a perfect pointer to that fact, it seems to me. What sorts of band-aid solutions to the problem could be implemented, short term (one that comes to me is encouraging people who volunteer to volunteer at the welfare center--to provide assisted childcare, for instance, or even just somebody to go feed the damn meters)? Could the mothers at that particular center (were there fathers?) group together, even informally, to help each other at all, even just for the time while they are waiting (for instance, one person appoints themselves 'listener' so people can converse and take care of their kids without having the weight of just litening for their name/number to come up being so incredibly heavy)? Waht sorts of incentives might move the workers there to work more for the people they're there to support (I'm almost certain having volunteers around would help, actually, if that could be done--if nothing else, shaming workers into doing more work).

But of course all of these things *are* band- aid solutions. The problems are systemic. How is it that you have to come into the office once a year in the first place, for instance, given that you have to cart around oxygen and have kids? How much does the center spend to have you come in and get what you need vs. what it would take to just mailt he damn food stamps, or make an appointment online to talk online with a caseworker, etc.? And then, the most difficult question for me is: If this system is basically broken, what sort of system ought there be?

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Comment by scribe posted July 26, 2005 - 12:12pm

I don't think this system is fixable. Politican/governmental systems are based on the values held by a culture. As long as a culture continues to devalue women and their contributions, and base the established systems on values that benefit powerful white males the most, this will continue to be the result. In a top down system, those who have the power and are reaping the most benefits do NOT want it changed.

Add to this the powerful rise of the religious right, with it's investment in stripping women of rights we have already spent decade and decade to gain, plus a Democratic Party that can't toss us over the side fast enough, and the only conclusion I can come to at this time is that women are being not shoved, but propelled right back to the kind of Stepford life I once lived back in the 50's and 60's.
Sorry, but thats how I see it.

ONward!

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Comment by DreamOfPeace posted July 26, 2005 - 12:20pm

This is exactly what my Mom is saying - that soon women will only be able to get jobs as teachers and nurses and that the pay for those jobs will go down.

OK, I have to quit doing this or I'm going to get in trouble at work.

Later

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Comment by DreamOfPeace posted July 26, 2005 - 12:29pm

In Japan when women were barred from holding Management positions they protested by declining to have children. Something to think about.

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Comment by kactus posted July 26, 2005 - 1:00pm

I wish! You have to go to school to be a teacher or a nurse. Poor women dream of someday being certified nursing assistants, which is usually a 6-week course that they can take while working. For women in the brave new world of welfare reform, the idea of actually being able to go to school to be a teacher or a nurse is so far out of reach as to be impossible.

I agree with you and your mother, though, that any work that is done almost exclusively by women is devalued (both economically and in terms of status) and will continue to be so.


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Comment by scribe posted July 26, 2005 - 4:13pm

When widowed in 69, i had only a night scholl education. I DID go to the county offiuces then, to see of there was any fiunding to help me with tuition for nursing school. At that time, there WERE fuds avaialbe, but only if I was content becoming a LPN, which only require one year of training. I knew LPN's made little more than nurses aids,and I had two kids to support, so I wanted a two years RN program so I could make the larger RN salary. Sorry, they said. No can do.

F*ck you I said, and proceeded to dive nearly 10 K deeper in debt than I was, via school loans, plus worked a full time nurses aid job while carrying 18 credits a quarter for two full years. Darned near kiled myself off. Of course I hardly ever saw my children for that time, two little girls who not only lost their father to death, but most of their mother as well, to the sheer struggle for our shared survival. Not only for those two years either, but the the many years that followed after I became an alcoholic in order to even try to cope.

ONward!

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Comment by Kate posted February 9, 2006 - 11:25pm

I was a welfare activist during the Welfare Reform debacle that Clinton signed (throw away poor women for political expediency -- and no one noticed).

I started my own organization of other women like me trying to survive, juggling children, trying to get an education/training, getting a job or chrise -- just raising the flippin' kids that their father won't support.

Yes, that's right. My ex didn't pay anything. I was on welfare for about three years and then I jumped off, got a job driving cab, then another one doing something else and so on. I fixed up my apartment to keep the landlord happy.

Today I have my own construction company. I found a man who had skill in the trade who had nothing to lose by teaching me and working with me and I started a business, run it and do work in the field as well. I went to school to get a degree in construction tech (an assoc.). I haven't finished it yet, but I'm close. Business got too much to handle.

My kids have grown and are becoming independent and are damn glad I stayed home with them when I did. They were a handful as they had plenty of emotional issues thanks to good ole' dad who left them high and dry.

I want to make this brief: but here's some points I want to make. Although I don't know right now what you want to do Kactus I want to post some points for everyone else that never get attention.

I was so damn sick and tired of the welfare office trying to push me into a frickin nursing job or a secretarial job. I had no interest in waiting on sick people or wiping their asses and had no desire to dress up everyday and wait on some professional men and their clients either.

I really resent that women are still forced into traditional roles as the only things out there to make a living.

1) You will succeed Kactus at whatever you want, just don't listen to the 'noise' I know its hard, but GIRL KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!

2) If any woman wants to support her family, ,look into the trades. If dull witted uneducated men can make a living without a college degree, so can girls. Here's a sampling of how men work with no or minimal time in school and still earn good money:

1. Truck driver or CDL driver: you can take a CDL license test and get your license to drive light delivery trucks. Good pay. Male dominated. You can find out about getting a CDL license usually through your local DMV. Its not dirty, its not unglamorous. Its a living.

2. Carpenter. Apply as a carpenter's helper. YOu will ahve to be determined as men who will hire a woman are not everywhere. You also have to be able to stand rejection until you get in. Try a temp agency and start out as a laborer (NOT day labor places). You can also check out your local union.

3. Plumber. Plumbers make unbelievably good money. usually entry is controlled by the local union and will require an apprenticeship, but this will give all the training you need and you get paid and you are working to boot. And no, you won't be chasing turds all day either, nor do they all have 'plumbers crack'.

4. Heating and air. Heating and air conditioning techs make very good money as well. They are called 'tin knockers' in the trades because they work with tin in making ducts for heating and air conditioning systems. OF course today they use other materials as well. It requires some training which can be learned either at your local tech college or in the field as an apprentice.

5. Electricians. Electrical work by far is cleaner and doesn't require any heavy lifting (although none of the trades do these days). The work is cleaner than the other trades and requires a little more education. Most electricians must have some class time as well as on the job training. Unions offer apprenticeships for those who finish their minimum class instruction.

6. Drywall hangers and tapers. Drywall hanging requires a little muscle as a 4 x 8 sheet of drywall can get kinda heavy after awhile. But if you like some exercise and like to move, then you could probably try it. Most 'hangers' get paid by the sheet. Taping is an art form and is something you learn by working with others in the field. Taping is one area where I have seen some women enter.

7. Painters: Painting is an area where a lot of women have entered. Again, it pays well and like all the other trades mentioned, offers work in commercial, union, residential and self employment opportunities.

There! Now c'mon ladies. I want to see more women in the trades. Why should the guys make all the money?

While we're at it, I'll dispell some myths men wish to keep alive about the trades (to further their own egos mostly).

1) That the trades require muscle. Fact is that OSHA regulations do not even allow that heavy lifting beyond fifty pounds be required of anyone. I can tell you that the men I know and work around aren't anymore interested in heavy lifting than you are. Most trades do not require it, or if they do, only on a limited basis. Also, we don't live in the stone age; there are tools to assist any job and men use them ALL THE TIME.

2) That men will treat women poorly who work with them.
Don't be so quick to think that. When I worked in commercial construction and even now that I have my own residential construction company, the feedback I'd say in 90% positive. Most men will defend you if anything and will support you all the way. What I find is that they are just tickled to death to find a woman is interested in what they do, they want a woman's attention and frankly, most men prefer working with women and aren't all about machismo. Although, keeping them all at arm's length is always the best policy -- friends and nothing else.

3) I need connections or to know someone
True, I got into my business with the help of a lonely old carpenter who was just waiting for someone to put his skills to good use, but you don't need that. My first job I worked for Manpower, a national temp agency as a laborer on a commercial construction job. It was a hoot. I rank it as one of my best all time jobs. I worked like a dog but everyone was great and being around people who were enthusiastic and proud about their job was fantastic (compared to the boring service jobs I had to hold before to support my kids).

4) Find a mentor once you get in. You will find that men will want to teach you -- most. Don't tolerate a jerk, move on.

5) Check out your local tech school. Boys are always directed to the tech school to get their required training if needed after high school for auto mechanics, electrical, heating and air, welding. Why can't you? Yes, it may be odd to be in a classroom with a bunch of boys, but young guys are a little more liberal than the older men and you will find that if you are sociable, they'll take to you and be respectful as well. Often they are just as scared of you as you of them (I learned this myself when gonig to the tech for construction).

6) I will not be seen as a woman by my peers. Who needs friends like that? Ditch them! Seriously though, I have found other women supportive. Make a difference, set an example for your daughters.

Ladies come on! Anything relating to the building industry is a growth industry and pays very well. The trades are begging for people to fill positions, but they don't look to women. Women are going to have to get there on their own.

As well, many other traditionally male jobs pay well and don't require shitloads of school time to learn and they pay MUCH better than a 6-week CNA job ever will.

CNA's are paid little money. Why? Because they are able to exploit poor women's need for a job.

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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 12:27am

We have seen such a zoom in the amount of women who are stuck working either in nursing homes, daycares or temp jobs since old Billy signed his welfare deform bill. I'm curious to know what groups you were active in--we may have crossed each other's paths without knowing it. I've done all my welfare rights work in Milwaukee with the Welfare Warriors, but have been involved in coalition work with the Minnesota Welfare Rights Committee, Community Voices Heard, JEDI Women, Kensington Welfare Rights Union, and too many others to remember. Sadly many of them are struggling to stay afloat, just like moms and kids on welfare now.

I was never so happy as the day I got Social Security and was able to say goodbye, forever, to welfare. Now all I have to worry about is food stamps, but I'm freed of the constant pressure to work, look for work, drag my tired body from place to place, meet their demands, and chafe under their assumptions about me and my position.


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Comment by Kate posted February 10, 2006 - 12:42am

Thanks Kactus:

Actually, I may have seen you but it has been so long...I was at a conference in Wisconsin and saw Acorn and some people from Welfare Warriors. Went to a little meeting of Welfare Warriors once, a women about in her fifties with long grey hair played a guitar. THat's all I remember.

I don't know how on earth lived through those days. Not only was I organizing, but i was going to school fulltime (communications then, then switched to human services at another school, then quit and progressed to construction years later). I quit working in '94 and got on welfare a few weeks after and started my first semester of school in Feb of '95 when the governor here announced his six weeks and out to work program. I was on fire. I waited for years for the chance to go to school, now i was being told that becuase I was poor, because I had three kids, Because my ex abandoned his responsibility, I was to be relegated to low wage work forever (I know the reality of how little upward movement occurs in service work).

I was horrified and angry.

I started testifying before the state legislature with a woman who organized women to testify on welfare issues. She was older and afraid of my anger. My anger motivated me. I talked to women at the welfare office, I talked to women at the university, going on their degree programs that were soon to be fazed out, I talked to women everywhere. THe name of my group was "Low Income People for Power".

I was told I had to jump through a bunch of hoops to get funding from local funders, another organization wanted to absorb us. I wanted us to stay independent.

Then I was diagnosed with manic depression (couldn't have just been exhaustion could it?) and my activism ended abruptly. Shortly after Clinton signed the whole thing away. We one small victories on the state level. I don't regret it for a minute. As for the manic depression diagnosis, well that was thrown out a year later when I got my life more manageable, I stopped the meds after six months because they were making me sick and fat.

Anyhoo. that's the short and some long of my story.

THanks for liking my post. Women need to get out of the office, the hotels, resturant floors and everywhere we've been 'relegated' and get out where the action -- and cash --- is.

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Comment by bayprairie posted February 10, 2006 - 1:48pm

sounds to me like you're doing really well these days. and that's great. thanks for sharing. i already feel better about my day after reading the dialog.

enjoy!

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 2:03pm

Whenever I hear somebody on the left praise Clinton I think of welfare reform. No matter what else he did I can't get past that. Am I wrong to judge pretty much his entire presidency on the fact that he signed that bill? I don't think so, because while it was politically popular it was, and continues to be, a catastrophe for women and children. And then my sister, a major right-wing ditto-head, has the nerve to call Clinton a socialist-communist president! When she first said that to me I was too surprised to say anything (was also in a hospital bed after having a pacemaker/defibrillator implanted). The second time I said "but Clinton's the president who ended welfare as we know it. Does that sound like the actions of a socialist-communist?"

Well, welfare reform sure was a popular horse to beat for many, many years. And now folks who don't really know act like it's all a done deal and women are now self-sufficient at last--as if. They have the nerve to praise Clinton for signing that death-dealing act. I still get angry, frustrated beyond belief, and tired, so very tired. That's why I blog about poverty issues almost exclusively--to keep it in people's minds and to keep my righteous anger alive. I can't go out on the streets and picket anymore (unless it's in a wheelchair) but I can write and try to be a rational voice for so many women who don't have a voice of their own.


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Comment by bayprairie posted February 10, 2006 - 3:59pm

in fact i feel that in the future historians will date the death of the democratic party from around the time of his presidency. he formulated the values sellout and his "push to the middle" has now led us to today where we have anti-choice democratic candidates and anti-gay candidates along the lines of Tim Kaine in Virgini and Bob Casey, Jr. in Pennsylvania, etc etc. The list really just goes on and on.

I think though, that the democratic party was only progressive for a very brief period of time and what they're doing now is simply returning to their roots. One has to keep in mind that when the civil rights movement began, and the police were calling the dogs out and the national guard was on the march that all those states had democratic governors, democratic legislatures and democratic majorities. George Wallace was a democrat, as was Orville Faubus and all those white citizens councils in the south at that time were filled with democratic party types.

They're just returning to their roots. FDR doesn't win anymore, although if you look at what made this country great it was the social programs of the new deal. They've thrown all that overboard though and clinton was part of it. It doesn't play with the racist whites whos votes they need to attain power.

And this is the reason I'll never vote for Hillary. She's just like Bill. She'll do whatever she needs to do to gain power. Look at how easily she supported Bush at the beginning of his Iraq war and how she preaches "safe, legal and rare" and her laughable vote on flag burning. She'll sell out the unenfranchised as quickly as her husband did and sleep like a baby afterwards.

I'll play no part of it.

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 6:32pm

We all know that old saw; I think that it can be taken a step further--the desire for power begins the corruption. It takes a strong character indeed to resist such temptation.


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Comment by kactus posted February 10, 2006 - 6:27pm

I wanted to add, too, how enormous a loss Paul Wellstone's death was. He was one of only a handful of politicians who were actively on the side of the disenfranchised. We welfare rights activists loved him and saw his compassion--he was one of us up to the day he died.


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Comment by Kate posted February 10, 2006 - 12:30am

Women have to go for non-traditional high paying jobs that are dominated by men. I was not born to be in servitude just because I am a woman. All credit to women who do traditional work, especially nurses who have worked hard to bring the RN field where it is today, but that is just my thing and I'll be damned if some squirrelly government worker or any other person is going to tell me I have to.

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Comment by nemohee posted July 26, 2005 - 4:03pm

After reading this, the next person to mention the term "welfare queen" will get a swift punch to the kisser.

Keep strong.

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Comment by bayprairie posted July 27, 2005 - 6:25am

yeah its a hackneyed old phrase better applied to corporations these days, isn't it? halliburton, the welfare queen of the bush maladministration.

muy appologies to queenie :::

Binti Pamoja

...nobody takes care of them, they must take care of each other... Judy, 18


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Comment by kactus posted July 28, 2005 - 8:36am

I like that. In fact I think that from now on that should be Cheney's new title: Welfare Queen Dick Cheney today sat on his lazy ass and collected $1.8 billion in unearned income from honest tax-payers so that he could drink beer and scream at his kids from the porch. LOL.


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Comment by gballsout posted October 5, 2005 - 8:21am

You get a tax break, you're a welfare queen.

I won't use up valuable space reposting what I put on mediagirl over the last month or so, but my experiences with public assistance are recorded here:

how-to-get-food-stamps

more-on-getting-public-assistance

the-pre-criminalization-of-the-poor

social-services-something-for-nothing

And this is why I have to be in a hardcore punk band. I want to write the damn lyrics, and hell, I play 2 chords. What's one more?

Social Security Sadist

Fingerprint the innocent
Beat down the beaten down
you won't be so smug
when your turn comes around.

Here comes the revolution
Here comes the downsize now

The hungry wait 30 days
b/4 they get something to eat
welfare pays $214
to keep you from the street.

here comes the revolution
Here comes the landlord now.

I paid all my taxes
Federal, state and city
I ain't asking for no handout
I ain't asking for no pity

Here comes the revolution
Whose side are you on now?

Government supports big bizness
they get every break
and now that bizness is in my business
Saying *I* am on the take

Here comes the revolution
Who's got the guns now?

Run, rich! Run!
Boom, boom.


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Comment by Traci posted June 22, 2006 - 7:10pm

I will gladly purchase this song once produced! GREAT LYRICS!

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Comment by Traci posted June 22, 2006 - 7:08pm

This saddens and enrages me. In my life I have spent many afternoons at the welfare office. Thank God I am in a position where I no longer have to endure that dehumanizing treatment. Please keep your head up and know that you are strong. We all know that not a soul enjoys standing and waiting on $152 and $300 in food stamps. We are a great race of women and vindication will come from some direction. I am not telling you what I've heard, I am confirming what I know. Sometimes we experience some things just so we can assist our sisters in prevailing.
You are STRONG and Wonderful, regardles of the money or lack there of that is in your purse!! BE BLESSED!

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Comment by mhs123 posted July 26, 2006 - 11:00am

I am stunned. Looking for something else, came upon this.

The exciting news for Australians is that our present Federal government wants to move to the "American model" for Social security. Goddess help us!!!

Presently the type of welfare being discussed on this forum is provided by agencies such as St. Vincent de Paul and The Salvation Army. The queues for food vouchers etc with these agencies that you talk of don't seem to exist here as the current system of social security provides supporting parents with pensions. Wilst they are below the nationally accepted 'poverty level'incomes, at least this miserable sum enables women to provide the neccessities for themselves and their children... if their expectations are low and they are wonderful managers!! (or they have a part time job that pays a pittance in cash - 'criminalisation of the poor' in action.)

Being in the Welfare or Social Security system anywhere is demoralising, dehumanising and damned humilating, and once in their clutches, nothing, but nothing is secret or sacred. Am on an aged pension and 'they' have access to my bank account details - for what that's worth, must cause sniggers in the Centrelink lunchroom, and no permission on my part is required. I must phone them fortnightly to let them know if my financial circumstances have changed and to tell them if I have had anyone else staying in my home in the preceeding 2 weeks.

Now the Bureau of Statistics has got in on the act..they need info from me every month about the hours I work(who the hell is going to employ a 67yr old deaf woman with a dickey heart I ask.) Now they also want to know what sort of phone I have - cell or standard, and last time wanted to know if I was going to be at this address 'on your own tonight'. I am a 'lady'(?) through and through but that last question resulted in me telling the questioner that he could get stuffed and ending the conversation. For me, that one raised significant safety issues.

I worked full time for 34 years whilst raising 6 kids and a grandchild, paid my taxes and never received one cent of government support whilst I was about it. How it was considered by the powers that be that I was earning too much in clerical jobs, to be entitled to any govt support, is beyond me. We lived at 12 different addresses during that time, always looking for a place that was large enough and easier to afford.

I felt sad looking back that I had not been able to provide a stable physical environment for my children, and said this to my eldest daughter. Her reply made the struggle worthwhile. "Mum, in the years I was working away and I said 'I'm going home for Christmas', it meant that I was coming home to you. It wouldn't matter where the place was - tin shed on a river bank..whatever. Where you are has always been 'home'" I suppose you strong, feisty women might find that a bit kitsch, but it made my day:)

Kitschy I may be, but I could never have coped emotionally if I'd had to do what you women are forced into doing ... I think I would have become violent. I know that's not very constructive, but that's me.

Mary:)

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